Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Why your excuses SUCK and how YOU can get PAST them!

Bold statement right?

Good (insert grump cat face here)

But seriously. We ALL have excuses, we all have reasons why we can or can't do something. But let me tell you why your (and even my) excuses suck for the things that need to get done.

1. Excuses are planned lies-learned that at a good ole Dani Johnson seminar. If you plan on excusing yourself from something, and whatever the excuse is, if it's not a legit reason, is just a planned lie. ESP if its something THAT has to get done, you're putting off the inevitable (ahem, tax season anyone?) and the consequences are growing by the second!

2. Excuses make you look bad-plain and simple. I know that when I use and used excuses to get out of the things that needed my attention, my reputation paid for it. My word started to lose it's purpose and credibility. We are all in sales, whether you realize it or not, and when you sell yourself short because you can't or won't follow through, your loss. TRUST me, it sucks! *You are in sales-- Whether you want someone to like you (guy or girl), be your friend, convince your parents of something, husband or wife, customers, you name it.

3. Your excuses are usually correlated to something you fear, and guess what fear does? It holds you back, fear and being uncomfortable keep you in your safety zone, where things are certain to either fall to shit or... stay the same, which is pretty much the same thing (you are either dying or growing). So that thing you really don't want to do (like workout or eat right) JUST DO IT, because the sooner you do, the sooner you exercise that muscle to make SHIT happen! (pardon my french ;-) )

So what can you do?

1. Recognize that FEAR that's behind your excuse, what are you really afraid of? what is it that makes you so uncomfortable that you don't want to do this particular thing? Is it that you're afraid to fail? You're not enough? You're overwhelmed? You doubt you can do it? take the time to hear yourself think---recognize the positive and negative self talk. This step is probably the hardest and needs to be addressed right away! Tell yourself that you CAN do it, that you are worth it. Watch the Secret and read Tony Robbin's Book

2. Don't take on TOO much, if you say you are going to do something, make sure it aligns with your top 3 priorities in life, and if it doesn't and takes away from your life, it's time to re-evaluate! Remember it's about quality, not quantity. So if you are apart of too many clubs, PTAs, and other meetings, and seem to struggle keeping your word--time to take a step back and choose what's really important!

3. Be honest--If the excuse is holding you back from getting something done, just tell the truth to yourself and whoever else. If it matters to you, you will find a way, if it doesn't matter to you, you will find an excuse right? Does it matter to you? GET REAL with yourself. At least if you are going to be honest, be honest to YOU and accept that it's ok to tell yourself the truth. There's an undeniable power in being REAL and RAW with who you are and what you want and don't want for your life!

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